I just caught myself, as ever, coming up for a reason not to do something this morning! I knew exactly what I was doing and was pretty disappointed in myself.
An Excuse – the rationalised reasons we give ourselves to defend our behavior, to neglect taking part in something or simply as a means of negating responsibility.
Excuses are in essence a way of placing the blame of an internal problem on an external ‘thing’. Here are a few forms in which they come:
- Not enough time – Probably you lack passion in what you’re doing and probably your priorities are out of sorts. It could also indicate you just don’t want to take the time, to do what you feel you must. This excuse can be narrowed down to procrastination or laziness.
- Not enough money – I often find this excuse means you could simply be lacking a strategy to help you reach your financial objectives. Go out there and read books, get a mentor or a financial coach who can help you gain the knowledge/understanding you need to succeed financially.
- Don’t know how – You lack belief and confidence in your own abilities. It also means you haven’t taken the time to practice, learn, or to gain the experience necessary to “know what to do”. This excuse is very easy to combat – LEARN how to do what you want to do! Make lots of mistakes over and over – you’ll eventually discover what works.
- Afraid to fail – I see this one lots and often. It means you lack understanding, confidence, knowledge and experience. Anthony Robbins once said that fear is nothing more than ‘false evidence appearing real’. Also consider the road to success is always paved with obstacles, challenges and problems. EVERYONE makes mistakes. However, those who fail are those who simply give up and excuse their life away. I know harsh, but true!
Persist, persevere and resist the temptation to give-in to your excuses – just beat the door down and don’t give up, or in. Benjamin Franklin once said ‘he that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else’. Sometimes we get absorbed in making excuses about things, we forget to focus on making the best of every situation, no matter what the outcome.
Make it happen – period.